* Pronoun usage is personal and individual. The most polite thing to do is to use the pronouns that a person identifies with.
* "Polite order" can be misconstrued. It might imply prioritizing pronouns based on social hierarchy, which can be disrespectful and harmful.
* It's best to ask. The best way to be polite is to ask someone their pronouns when you meet them.
Here's a breakdown of typical pronouns and why "order" isn't relevant:
* Singular Pronouns:
* She/Her/Hers: Used by individuals who identify as female.
* He/Him/His: Used by individuals who identify as male.
* They/Them/Their: Used by individuals who identify as non-binary, gender non-conforming, or those who prefer not to specify their gender.
* Plural Pronouns:
* We/Us/Our: Used to refer to a group of people, including the speaker.
* You/You/Your: Used to refer to the person being addressed.
* They/Them/Their: Can also be used as a plural pronoun, referring to a group of people.
Instead of focusing on a "polite order," prioritize these actions:
* Use the pronouns a person tells you they use.
* Be respectful of individual preferences.
* Be mindful of your language and avoid assuming someone's pronouns.
If you are ever unsure, it's always best to politely ask: "What pronouns do you use?"