Here's how to understand the idiom:
* "Push" symbolizes gentle persuasion or encouragement.
* "Shove" represents forceful action or a point of no return.
Example:
* "I'm trying to avoid this argument, but if push comes to shove, I'll have to stand up for myself."
The idiom is often used to describe situations where:
* A decision needs to be made: "If push comes to shove, we'll have to choose between option A and option B."
* Action is necessary: "If push comes to shove, I'll have to take legal action."
* A line is crossed: "I've been patient, but if push comes to shove, I'm walking out of this meeting."
Note: The idiom is almost always used in the phrase "if push comes to shove." It's rarely used on its own.