For "decide calm":
* Soothe: To make someone feel calmer or less upset.
* Pacify: To make someone calm and peaceful.
* Compose: To calm oneself or someone else down.
* Tranquilize: To make someone calm or still.
For "decide quiet":
* Hush: To make someone be quiet.
* Silence: To make something completely quiet.
* Muzzle: To prevent someone from speaking.
* Suppress: To stop something from being expressed or heard.
The best word to use will depend on the specific situation and what you are trying to convey.