Here's a better approach:
Instead of asking "Where do you come from?" you can say:
* "Where are you from?" This is a more general and respectful question.
* "What are your ancestral roots?" This is a more nuanced question that allows the individual to share their heritage on their own terms.
* "Do you have any whakapapa (genealogy) you'd like to share?" This acknowledges the importance of whakapapa in Māori culture.
Remember:
* Avoid making assumptions. Don't assume someone is Māori based on their appearance.
* Be mindful of cultural sensitivities. Māori culture places a strong emphasis on whakapapa, and it's important to be respectful of this.
* Listen and learn. If someone shares their whakapapa with you, be a good listener and learn about their heritage.
By using respectful language and asking appropriate questions, you can build bridges and learn more about the diverse backgrounds of people around you.