Here's a breakdown of its key characteristics:
* Creates Mistrust, Hostility, and Hurt: Aggressive communication often involves attacking the other person's character, using insults, sarcasm, threats, or intimidation. This creates a hostile environment and erodes trust.
* Desire for Conflict: The goal is to dominate the conversation, win, and get what they want, even if it means hurting the other person's feelings.
* Lack of Cooperation: Aggressive communicators are focused on their own needs and goals, often refusing to listen to or consider the other person's perspective.
Examples of Aggressive Communication:
* "You're always so stupid!"
* "That was a terrible idea. You're incompetent."
* "If you don't do this, I'll..." (threat)
* "Fine, do it yourself then! I'm not helping."
Contrast with Assertive Communication:
It's important to distinguish aggressive communication from assertive communication. Assertive communication is about expressing your needs and opinions respectfully and directly, without resorting to aggression or manipulation. It focuses on finding solutions that benefit both parties.
Here are some key differences:
| Aggressive Communication | Assertive Communication |
|---|---|
| Attacks, insults, threats | Expresses needs and opinions directly |
| Dominates the conversation | Listens and considers the other person's perspective |
| Creates conflict | Aims for cooperation and mutual respect |
If you're engaging in aggressive communication, it's important to reflect on your communication style and consider ways to adopt a more assertive and respectful approach.